I am against the presence of your boyfriend or husband during the shooting. In some cases there can be exceptions, but only if we agree about this in advance. If we arrange a session with you and you come with your partner without getting my approval in advance, it is he who will photograph you with his smartphone :)
The model signs a release in which she gives all the rights on the photographs to the photographer. In particular, this gives me the right to publish and sell the photographs. No claims will be accepted later, please take it responsibly! The text of the model release is available here.
In a case of an explicit shoot (nude, boudoir, etc.) we discuss the possibility of publishing photographs in social media in advance. I never publish explicit photographs in social media without approval from the model. However, I reserve the right to publish these photographs in other websites dedicated to art of photography.
When I publish a photo in facebook, I tag you on it. You don’t have to show it in your personal page but you do not remove the tag. This may not be applicable for explicit shots provided that we have discussed this in advance.
It is the photographer, not the model who chooses the pictures for post processing and publication. I do respect your opinion and usually try to follow your recommendations, but the final decision always remains with me.